As soon as you get engaged and start planning your wedding it is very easy to get caught up in the moment. After all, it is your Big Day so it simply has to be the most beautiful experience for all concerned.

Unfortunately however, many couples are swiftly brought back down to earth when they discover that weddings, by their very nature, can be extremely stressful events to organise.

This is largely due to the amount of time and effort it takes to plan a wedding in your spare time! Together with a host of external pressures such as trying to appease parents, immediate family, extended family and friends!

The Stress of Planning a Wedding, by SomeCards
The Stress of Planning a Wedding, by SomeCards

With literally dozens of important decisions to be made during the planning stages of this momentous, once-in-a-lifetime event, it is only natural that people’s opinions will differ or clash.

And in such a pressured environment it can only take a spark – such as a negative comment about the colour scheme, menu, the length of bridesmaid’s dresses or the seating plan – to ignite the mother-of-all-arguments!

It is during difficult times such as these that your friends and possibly family members will show their true colours. True friends and close family will support your choices, wishes and decisions, even if they do not necessarily agree with them. Whereas lesser friends and family members might, for whatever reason, prefer to object, criticise or complain.

On such occasions, the trick is to accept that, no matter how hard you try, it’s impossible to please everyone, especially at a wedding!

Clearly, like most words of advice, this is much easier said than done. But the fact is, couples that manage to reasonably* adopt this principle dramatically reduce their own stress levels and find that planning a wedding can be a thoroughly enjoyable life-experience.

* I say reasonably because this principle can quite easily be taken to the extreme! For instance by a potential bridezilla – or groomzilla! – adopting the view “it’s my wedding, I’ll do whatever I want!”

An Exception To The Rule!
An Exception To The Rule!

Stress levels may well be cut, but so too will relationships with family and friends!

“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”. John Lydgate, Poet.